do all my friends hate me?

“我所有的朋友都恨我吗?”是我写的一首歌，当时我觉得...我所有的朋友都恨我。我当时处于低谷，感到极度悲伤和不安全。我觉得自己很烦人，真的不喜欢自己。写完后，我有点紧张，因为我知道我很幸运，有些人的焦虑程度比我严重。当我第一次分享它时，我很惊讶有这么多不同年龄段的人评论说这正是他们的感受。

有时，我会把自己的价值和身份过多地放在别人对我的看法、他们对我的反应或我在脑海中与他们的比较上。通过与朋友（他们并不是真的讨厌我)交谈，我知道我并不是唯一有这种感觉的人。当我们已经感到不知所措、焦虑或沮丧时，庆祝自己并感受到他人的支持可能会特别困难。作为一个人，我想继续成长，并寻找工具以健康的方式帮助克服负面情绪。这就是为什么我把JED基金会——一个精神健康的非营利组织二一给我分享一些对我有用的秘诀，从专家和资源中获得支持的想法因为我们有时都需要帮助。我希望你们喜欢这首歌，希望我们能一起找到更多的方式来感受彼此的联系，并互相照顾。

-麦肯娜·格瑞斯

“do all my friends hate me?” is a song I wrote when I was feeling just that…that all my friends hated me. I was at a low point and feeling extremely sad and insecure. I had all these feelings of being annoying and really not liking myself. After I wrote it, I was a little nervous to share it because I know I am very fortunate and there are people who have anxiety way worse than I do. When I first shared it, I was surprised at how many people of all ages commented that this was exactly how they felt.

I sometimes have these moments where I put too much of my own worth and identity in the hands of what other people think of me, how they react to me or how I compare to them in my mind. I know from talking to my friends (who don’t really hate me) that I’m not alone in feeling that way. It can be especially hard when we are already feeling overwhelmed, anxious or depressed to celebrate ourselves and feel that support from other people. I want to keep growing as a person and to find tools to help navigate negative feelings in a healthy way. That’s why I’ve spotlighted The Jed Foundation – a mental health nonprofit – to share some tips that have worked for me, ideas from experts and resources for getting support, because we all need help sometimes. I hope you enjoy the song and that we can find ways together to feel more connected and look out for each other.

-Mckenna Grace